Online dating profile can be a little tricky in that you do not want to go over the top and scare likely dates away and you do not want to miss out out on possible dates by not having the right profile.
It helps to have a picture of you on your profile, not an old picture but a recent picture that presents your true image and not just some beautiful picture you get from the Internet. Instead of using an image that is not yours, it is better for you not to use any image at all because when a picture looks too perfect and arouses suspicion, it can be checked out on the Internet as it is known that many online dating scams use pictures that are not their true images.
In your profile, be honest and do not exaggerate anything if you intend to get any real dates. Some people lie about age, height, habits, qualifications etc but the funny part is that if you lie about those things, you end up attracting someone who will like you for your profile but who will be disappointed when you do meet up. I once met someone online through a dating site whose profile said 6.1ft and 36yrs, I was not actually looking for a date that tall but was looking for a someone in mid-late thirties so the height was a bonus. I got an email which I happily responded to. We started emailing each other and talked on phone for some months before we decided to meet for a real life date. We had a lot to talk about and could chat on the phone for hours on end. On the day of our first date, it took me like from morning to that evening to make up my mind on what to wear because I wanted to look right for our first real date. I cannot begin to describe how disappointed I was when I saw my date who happens to be about 26yrs old and probably 5.6ft. I was disappointed and angry and as you can imagine, the date ended as soon as it started. You may be able to get away with creating a fantasy profile sometimes but most times, it will cost you your time and a likely date.
Do not use your real name in your profile, always use nicknames. Do not give out your home number and address until such a time you are comfortable with the person, possibly after some real live dates. If you need to give a phone number for phone communication, let it be your mobile/cell phone. Remember to make your first date in a public place and to let someone know where you are going to and who you are going to meet.
If you are looking to get a date, have a positive attitude as it will reflect on your conversations and emails. Take care of yourself and be happy because happy things happen to happy people. May you find the love or date you seek, do not bring your social life to halt because you are looking to find a date with online dating.
Tuesday 18 August 2009
Thursday 23 July 2009
Online Dating Tips
Online dating can become frustrating if you stay for months after sign up without getting any positive responses or dates. I know people who register and do not get any positive replies to any of their emails not to talk of meeting anyone face-to-face for months upon months. This may cause you to start asking yourself questions like; why am I not getting any dates?; is my profile not good enough for anyone out there?; will I ever get a date? etc.
Well, the common mistake many people make while choosing online dating websites is thinking that only the paid sites produce good and fast results. I know that the paid sites are good and people have success with them but the problem is that many users of these sites leave their account to become inactive. I would say search out and join free online dating services because they are modeled like social networking sites and even if you do not log in for a while, your account still remains active; but if using the paid sites, you can check how recent a user has been active just to make sure you do not mail an inactive user. You lose nothing and have everything to gain by setting up your profile on these free sites. I heard that okcupid.com is quite a good dating site and it is totally free; it has fun matchmaking and free dating tests you could take as well.
So my first tip if you want to find your soul mate online, is not to overlook free dating websites; put your profile in as many as you want. Do not just put your profile on the dating site and expect the site to do all the work for you. Be proactive and email those you find interesting and please do not make the email a glorified advert, just keep it simple e.g you can ask a question on something you find interesting on their profile. Not all your emails will get a response and you may not always have luck with the ones that respond but you will get lucky when it counts.
Remember to always be safe and make your first date in a public place, always let someone know where you are going. I wish you all the best and hope this information helps if you want to find friendship or relationship using online dating.
Well, the common mistake many people make while choosing online dating websites is thinking that only the paid sites produce good and fast results. I know that the paid sites are good and people have success with them but the problem is that many users of these sites leave their account to become inactive. I would say search out and join free online dating services because they are modeled like social networking sites and even if you do not log in for a while, your account still remains active; but if using the paid sites, you can check how recent a user has been active just to make sure you do not mail an inactive user. You lose nothing and have everything to gain by setting up your profile on these free sites. I heard that okcupid.com is quite a good dating site and it is totally free; it has fun matchmaking and free dating tests you could take as well.
So my first tip if you want to find your soul mate online, is not to overlook free dating websites; put your profile in as many as you want. Do not just put your profile on the dating site and expect the site to do all the work for you. Be proactive and email those you find interesting and please do not make the email a glorified advert, just keep it simple e.g you can ask a question on something you find interesting on their profile. Not all your emails will get a response and you may not always have luck with the ones that respond but you will get lucky when it counts.
Remember to always be safe and make your first date in a public place, always let someone know where you are going. I wish you all the best and hope this information helps if you want to find friendship or relationship using online dating.
Tuesday 21 July 2009
Online Dating
Online dating simply means two people meeting and having a social romantic interaction online. This is fast becoming a very big industry and will continue to grow bigger because technology has made it easy for people looking for friendship and relationship to find it using the Internet. The reason why match.com is acquiring/partnering with some good and big dating services is because of the success rate and increase in the number of people using the Internet to establish good relationships.
There are different ways people can meet and date online, e.g dating websites, dating services, social networks, etc. These services provide a forum or avenue for people to meet and get to know each other, in other words you could call them introductory services or online match makers. They facilitate the process of dating by making available features and tools that help sustain meaningful communication among users and they promote genuine connections.
A lot of people still do not agree that strong relationships could be built online but I disagree because online interaction can be as powerful and strong as relationships formed on a face to face introduction. Dating online creates a foundation for building trust and establishing friendship which generally leads to a real offline or real life relationship. People are more likely to talk from the heart and express themselves more freely during online interaction; less confident or shy people feel more confident when interacting online. That is not to say that this is the case with everyone but most people feel more confident to talk about stuff online thereby making it easier to figure out what they are about. I would say the Internet helps to foster a longer lasting romantic or platonic relationship because taking time to get to know each other online thereby postponing physical intimacy helps promote relationship longevity. Many people are finding true long lasting love and even life partners using online dating.
Traditionally or offline, weddings and parties are considered good places for meeting dates but they are not like everyday happenings and you may have very few or no invites for a year or even more but there are many dating websites and online dating services on the Internet and you can register at any time to one or more if you want to widen your chances. A good perception of others is very important when it comes to online interaction as some people can easily assume false identities like old people pretending to be very young, married people claiming to be singles or people that are not parents claiming to be parents, etc. This could happen offline as well but I must say it is more rampant online so perception is a key factor if you are looking to use the Internet to find love. Always remember that it is entirely up to you if the interaction online should be made an offline relationship, you are at an advantage where you can decide to stop or take it further. I would say not to rush meeting up but to take your time and get to know your date more so you could save yourself the stress of getting in touch with so many wrong dates before you meet the right one. Dating websites have simplified everything by grouping or categorising users so it is easier to find dates either by age, religion, ethnicity, gender, nationality, locality, etc.
There is genuine concern that apart from people using fantasy/pretentious identities, there are some people out there with other motives other than dating preying on victims. Just like offline dating, you just have to be perceptive and let your instincts guide you, do not be carried away, be careful and cautious. On the up side you increase your chances of finding that one person meant for you by joining any of the dating services on the Internet. There is someone out there for everyone and no one needs to be alone except out of pure choice.
Not all who seek love will find a soul mate but hopefully most will not be disappointed using online dating.
There are different ways people can meet and date online, e.g dating websites, dating services, social networks, etc. These services provide a forum or avenue for people to meet and get to know each other, in other words you could call them introductory services or online match makers. They facilitate the process of dating by making available features and tools that help sustain meaningful communication among users and they promote genuine connections.
A lot of people still do not agree that strong relationships could be built online but I disagree because online interaction can be as powerful and strong as relationships formed on a face to face introduction. Dating online creates a foundation for building trust and establishing friendship which generally leads to a real offline or real life relationship. People are more likely to talk from the heart and express themselves more freely during online interaction; less confident or shy people feel more confident when interacting online. That is not to say that this is the case with everyone but most people feel more confident to talk about stuff online thereby making it easier to figure out what they are about. I would say the Internet helps to foster a longer lasting romantic or platonic relationship because taking time to get to know each other online thereby postponing physical intimacy helps promote relationship longevity. Many people are finding true long lasting love and even life partners using online dating.
Traditionally or offline, weddings and parties are considered good places for meeting dates but they are not like everyday happenings and you may have very few or no invites for a year or even more but there are many dating websites and online dating services on the Internet and you can register at any time to one or more if you want to widen your chances. A good perception of others is very important when it comes to online interaction as some people can easily assume false identities like old people pretending to be very young, married people claiming to be singles or people that are not parents claiming to be parents, etc. This could happen offline as well but I must say it is more rampant online so perception is a key factor if you are looking to use the Internet to find love. Always remember that it is entirely up to you if the interaction online should be made an offline relationship, you are at an advantage where you can decide to stop or take it further. I would say not to rush meeting up but to take your time and get to know your date more so you could save yourself the stress of getting in touch with so many wrong dates before you meet the right one. Dating websites have simplified everything by grouping or categorising users so it is easier to find dates either by age, religion, ethnicity, gender, nationality, locality, etc.
There is genuine concern that apart from people using fantasy/pretentious identities, there are some people out there with other motives other than dating preying on victims. Just like offline dating, you just have to be perceptive and let your instincts guide you, do not be carried away, be careful and cautious. On the up side you increase your chances of finding that one person meant for you by joining any of the dating services on the Internet. There is someone out there for everyone and no one needs to be alone except out of pure choice.
Not all who seek love will find a soul mate but hopefully most will not be disappointed using online dating.
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